Jubilance: An Ode to Self Care


Self-Care; a phrase that has been become popular in the social media world amongst millennials, especially during the 2016 Presidential Election. But what is self-care? Is it cutting negative people out of your life? Listening to your favorite song on repeat 50 times? Or is it eating the full pint of Sea Salt Caramel Talenti? It's all of these things and more because you create it.

Self-Care's true definition is care of one's self without medical or other professional consultation. Most times it's more than that, while other times it's exactly that. Over time I've learned there's no capsule on happiness; and it wasn't until I started to truly discover who I really was that I became a better me. In April 2017 I left my hometown of St. Louis, Missouri and moved to Dallas, Texas. I did it completely by myself with no other influences. St. Louis started to not feel like home to me, as well as crime increasing and the job market becoming more competitive. I felt that I had done all the internal growing that I could and I needed a change. I chose Dallas because I knew it was a growing city, the job market was great and the cost of living was at a decent price range. Being away from everything that I knew made me realize who I really was. Now my thought process is completely different, I've figured out what I want to do for the rest of my life and my spirituality has grown tremendously. Within the growth I was able to find my true happiness.

A few of my favorite self-care practices are unplugging from the world, mediating, checking in with your emotions and getting out of your comfort zone. The world can be a lot sometimes, especially now in 2017. The world is a mess and this Administration is corrupt. Turn off that iPhone or place it on Airplane Mode. Read, take a walk or finish that project that you've been working on. I realized how much I can get done without picking up my phone every 5 minutes to check my notifications. In 2017 I was introduced to mediation. It does not require much skill or knowledge to the practice to try it out. Find a fluffy pillow and breathe deeply. For beginners, try only doing this for 10 minutes at a time. If you prefer not to be in silence there is always background music available. I listen to Native American Flute Music and it calms my spirit. I did not realize how important checking in with your emotions was until recently. The simplest way is to write. Start a journal. I find that writing at the start of the day is most effective for me. I use it as pep talks for myself. Complementing and telling myself believing thoughts in my journal usually determines how well my day will be. Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things is definitely important; and I truly believe that is how we discover ourselves. Go to an art museum, sign up for a cooking or pottery making class, get involved in your community garden, take a few free online courses. There is so much to learn about the world and yourself but you must be willing to be open minded.

There are so many different ways to practice self-care because it is happiness that you create. It's never too late to redefine your life and make the most of it. Push boundaries and think outside of the box and become more innovative. And whatever it is that makes you jubilant inside, do it and show the world your true colors.